Gone but Never Forgotten

Throughout one's life they must endure the heartache of losing someone close to them, whether it be a parent, sibling, grandparent, close family member, or even a close friend. People find all new ways to have their loved one or friend live on. Some people make stickers to put on their car, memorials for their lost loved one, or some wear something that the deceased always wore to always have them with them at all times. So this causes one to think, even though that person is gone are they truly ever forgotten?

Death in itself is an event that can cause someone extreme emotional or psychological pain, however when people do things to remember the deceased by it can make dealing with their loss a little easier. One good example I seen of this while reading Extremely Loud & Incredibly Close by Johnathan Foer was when Oscar made his mom the bracelet that was conducted of the last words his father spoke. He used different color beads on the bracelet to represent certain things, e.g. maroon beads were used for breaks between letters. For him this was a way for his mom to stay connected to his dad, so even though he was gone from everyday life him memory, and last words would never be forgotten.

Reading through this book I have grown a personal connection to how exactly Oscar feels when loosing his dad. When I was young I lost my grandfather who was a father figure to me and the man I based who I wanted to be upon. Losing him completely crushed my world and found myself at a place where I had no idea as to what to so or say. Even tho he was gone I still wore his necklace because to me this was a way for me to keep him with me at all times. When my seventeenth birthday approached I decided to get a tattoo on my right arm in remembrance of him. So just as Oscar tried to make and do things to remember his father, I tried the same thing to remember my grandfather.

Although death is an extremely painful process to endure, you can try and make dude with what you can. In the back of one's mind they must always think, yes they are gone but they never will be forgotten.